tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post4567436234075710458..comments2023-10-05T03:21:41.343-06:00Comments on Invictus Pilgrim: Voices: Wrestling with AngelsInvictus Pilgrimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15961213460164925021noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-90279508662090588142018-11-16T21:15:51.282-07:002018-11-16T21:15:51.282-07:00Sorry it's about 7+ years later. I have just ...Sorry it's about 7+ years later. I have just taken a look at this once again. I'm now divorced, having gained many insights about my own life, my need for a man's love and my continued ability to do some good in the lives of 15-24 year olds (including the young man within me), as my teaching and mentoring continues. If it is at all possible, I hope you'll find me on social media and tell me your stories.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-56034570838570552462011-12-15T23:15:32.693-07:002011-12-15T23:15:32.693-07:00Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought th...Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought that seven months later, I would have met, dated and married Benjamin Clark, moved to Wyoming to be with him, found myself ready and willing to help others in similar circumstances and now believe that I have a lot more to write. Ah, the power of writing one's story!Martin Kokolnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-45048352196682123482011-02-04T22:41:33.569-07:002011-02-04T22:41:33.569-07:00Thanks for sharing your story, Martin. I have bee...Thanks for sharing your story, Martin. I have been hoping to hear more about your story since we first met at Horizon's Christmas party. Hopefully we'll have a chance to meet and talk more in the future.Mister Curiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113134172902610883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-10113867785121056482011-02-04T22:30:21.108-07:002011-02-04T22:30:21.108-07:00@Libellule - thank you so much for the vote of con...@Libellule - thank you so much for the vote of confidence. I will tell you that something powerful has happened within me these last 72 hours since writing this and now seeing it "out there". <br /><br />@ Utahhiker801: When I split, my kids were 11, 9 and 7. I almost left two years earlier, but I had this strong feeling that they were not old enough. So, I hung in there for two more years. Sometimes I wish I had waited just one more year. But, I was screaming inside. <br /><br />The great news is that each of them made it in their own way. The first one took a few months before realizing that maybe Daddy is OK because "even if he did run off with Satan, then how come he's right there for me?". The second one thought it was perfectly fine for a boy to "hold hands with another boy". And the third one, when I told her why mommy and daddy couldn't stay together, gasped "just please don't get beaten up in the locker room"! I was blown away by that! <br /><br />Settling into the pattern of alternating weekends (I lived 15 miles north) and Wednesday dinners was just OK. That was for 2.5 years. But, then when I lost work at UV and wound up moving to NYC, it became more interesting. I have poured my finances into 6x/year on Delta. And now, since they're teens, it's all about texting. And they are FINE. Although it took me until this year to really believe that. They are all straight A students which pretty much blows me away. They are now the experts for some of their friends whose parents are now splitting (ostensibly for other reasons!). I attribute their success to their fierce independence and probably their mother's superb discipline. Cause, as she warned me before I left, all I would probably become would be a Santa Claus. <br /><br />I'd love to be a strong help for you. Feel free to contact Pilgrim if you want to contact me. He will send you to an e-mail for me. And thanks for asking. Because the MOST important thing for all of us is to figure out how to be first class in all our dealings. Like we said we would in our temple recommend interviews. . .Martinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-17297368041824156772011-02-04T16:40:42.338-07:002011-02-04T16:40:42.338-07:00Martin, I just have a couple of questions I would ...Martin, I just have a couple of questions I would like to ask you since I'm going through similar situations right now. I hope they're not too intrusive; I just need some insight.<br /><br />How old were your children when you split from their mom? How often did you see them after that and how have those relationships progressed?<br /><br />I would appreciate anything else you have to say about your situation. Thank you.Utahhiker801https://www.blogger.com/profile/06358909048430492121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-88038911862476282752011-02-04T14:51:40.795-07:002011-02-04T14:51:40.795-07:00An absolutely fascinating post. Martin, you have s...An absolutely fascinating post. Martin, you have such tremendous courage and inner strength to have gone through these trials and to dare being so true to yourself.<br /><br />thank you for sharing this.Libellulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07633236721899345816noreply@blogger.com