tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post8247320233953339752..comments2023-10-05T03:21:41.343-06:00Comments on Invictus Pilgrim: My Gay Identity: Betrayal and Abandonment of SelfInvictus Pilgrimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15961213460164925021noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-8633496478693434962010-11-15T20:04:47.124-07:002010-11-15T20:04:47.124-07:00Thank you for explaining this. I hoped I had inter...Thank you for explaining this. I hoped I had interpreted your use of that picture incorrectly, and it seems that I did. Thank you for giving me a clearer view of what it was you meant.<br /><br />Happy night. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-87773347364525160532010-11-15T19:38:34.316-07:002010-11-15T19:38:34.316-07:00To "this blog author": I knew that usin...To "this blog author": I knew that using this picture would be controversial to some and possibly offensive to some. I chose to use it because it illustrates the point I was trying to make, which you must understand is personal to me. I am not making any commentary comparing Mormons to Nazis. What I am saying is that the "path" (which consists of a lot of work) is intended to make one free. However, in my case, it ended up, in a sense, imprisoning me and making it that much more difficult for me to find and live my identity. Again, this is a very personal point, as is everything I write, and any wider interpretation is not intended.Invictus Pilgrimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15961213460164925021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-34550301273984313702010-11-15T18:25:18.013-07:002010-11-15T18:25:18.013-07:00recommend reading Wyatt's blog
http://wy-wy.b...recommend reading Wyatt's blog<br /><br />http://wy-wy.blogspot.com/<br /><br />and especially this interview of Wyatt:<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/user/lawrenzzz#p/a/u/2/WH8daUDaacAthe faithful cityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14045435322403474008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-87763608675376824632010-11-15T18:20:35.926-07:002010-11-15T18:20:35.926-07:00I have been to Dachau, where the sign "Arbeit...I have been to Dachau, where the sign "Arbeit macht frei" stands. I do not much like the slant put here that Mormon "work makes one free"- it feels like the Mormons are being compared to the Nazis. Is this what you meant? I have VERY strong feelings about what the Nazis did- to people whom I care greatly for. I am hoping you can clarify for me what you meant? Perhaps I misinterpreted what you meant by what you posted. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-36794516155141123212010-11-15T15:19:04.004-07:002010-11-15T15:19:04.004-07:00I can only commend your honesty and sharing. Thank...I can only commend your honesty and sharing. Thank you.<br /><br />All I can say is that each individual is exactly that: individual and unique. Each person on this world deserves equal treatment and respect, beginning with one's self.<br /><br />We are all made up of threads that weave our intricate nature. Sexuality is one big part of that weave as are memories, values, "religion" and philosophy. They all interact and define our weave. We may have frays that are threads we don't include in the weave. But don't let those threads unravel and get lost along the way. Take the time to reintegrate them to create a new pattern. Without those threads, the weave will never be representative of you with the colors, textures and patterns you choose that ALL represent your beautiful diversity.<br /><br />( ) hugs,Libellulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07633236721899345816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-58615632345320961612010-11-15T10:20:41.270-07:002010-11-15T10:20:41.270-07:00Such a familiar note of truth. I married under sim...Such a familiar note of truth. I married under similar circumstances although I didn't realize at the time I got married that I was as gay as I am. I was many years after I got married that I put it all together. Sounds kind of dumb now. <br /><br />When I did comeout to myself I was too old, it seemed, to follow a new path. It would hurt too many people. I am committed to my marriage of over 30 years. There isn't a day (or night)that goes by that I don't think about the special situation that I am in. <br /><br />I tried to explain it to my wife a few years ago but I could quickly see that it was going to create a a real problem so I just dropped it. I just keep it all to myself and sometimes I feel like I am going to burst. I wish it were different but it isn't. <br /><br />At this point in my life it isn't worth the uproar it would cause to come out to anyone else.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your feelings with us....AdonAdonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08782521613874488652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-85376817143331071382010-11-15T08:42:46.430-07:002010-11-15T08:42:46.430-07:00Thanks, once again, for sharing yet more aspects o...Thanks, once again, for sharing yet more aspects of your story. My situation parallels your own. I feel validated in reading this portion and realizing that you and I and many other married, Mormon fathers who are gay or bisexual share similar paths. <br /><br />Some of us have intact marriages, some do not. Some of those marriages are happy, others are not. Some of the children from these unions are well-adjusted, high functioning individuals, some are not. Some of us have strong, traditional testimonies of the truth of the gospel, some of us take a different approach to what we believe to be true and false. <br /><br />This is an important story to document. Even given a very conservative estimate of only 1% of Mormon males who are gay, our story is shared by tens of thousands of us. Thank you for your example in beginning to do so, and for the inspiration for others of us to speak up and tell the truth about our challenges and successes and our tears of frustration and gratitude.Nedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05938186985738546670noreply@blogger.com