tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post8637752542058163484..comments2023-10-05T03:21:41.343-06:00Comments on Invictus Pilgrim: Rip Van Winkle SyndromeInvictus Pilgrimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15961213460164925021noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-37725505792728780362011-01-26T21:00:01.778-07:002011-01-26T21:00:01.778-07:00Thanks for your insights, Martin. You have presen...Thanks for your insights, Martin. You have presented some new thoughts for me to ponder, and I'm grateful to you for that. A gay Mormon father ... what a contradiction in terms in one sense, but yet somehow beautiful ...Invictus Pilgrimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15961213460164925021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-84571932595890655922011-01-26T20:13:46.111-07:002011-01-26T20:13:46.111-07:00Pilgrim - I waited until I was 35 to marry (wantin...Pilgrim - I waited until I was 35 to marry (wanting to "cool" my gay jets which took 11 years). Marriage for 12 years with kids. So, I, too was so overwhelmed by all the lost years to relationship with others, with self and with my creativity that I stifled because they are lodged so close to my sexual preferrence. <br /><br />But the good news, now that I've had a few years to put all this in perspective is that, like a bilingual person (where each language is a bit slower than those who are monolingual), I have eagerly accepted that for the privilege of living two lives in series in one lifetime, I'll be a little "off" in both. <br /><br />So, Ill race a little faster in finishing out my straight life, paying extra close attention to my kids as they head towards young adulthood. And I'll run a little harder in getting my new life up to speed, giving extra thought to the lessons I need to learn so that I don't look like a fool, or make foolish mistakes. <br /><br />The key is that we make it, because to be stillborn (my term for coming out but dying emotionally due to lack of support) was horrible. So, I had to find the courage and energy to come out (of the "womb") a second time and this time I made it. We gay mormon fathers have a most unusual calling in this life. And that's to do it all. And assist, empower and inspire others. You're already inspiring many. . .Martin in NYCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-47755913589656038472011-01-25T08:37:50.054-07:002011-01-25T08:37:50.054-07:00@Trey - I always enjoy your comments. Thank you.@Trey - I always enjoy your comments. Thank you.Invictus Pilgrimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15961213460164925021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-80222079229718384022011-01-25T08:27:21.096-07:002011-01-25T08:27:21.096-07:00Trey, I enjoyed your comment almost as much as Pil...Trey, I enjoyed your comment almost as much as Pilgrim's post. Thanks.Clive Durhamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13429000026909551119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-15004053331781436492011-01-24T20:35:22.057-07:002011-01-24T20:35:22.057-07:00I am also certain that you will reclaim what is yo...I am also certain that you will reclaim what is yours!Libellulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07633236721899345816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-19629167472151116042011-01-24T18:07:51.747-07:002011-01-24T18:07:51.747-07:00Invictus,
Quite right: you do not need lectures o...Invictus,<br /><br />Quite right: you do not need lectures on whining; nor do you need patronizing clichés about how much time you DO have left. In fact, you do not need any response at all to what may have just been a need to articulate genuine concerns and have them understood. <br /><br />However, I would like to acknowledge the emotional reality of what you wrote; I feel it too. And not that this is supposed to lessen the impact of your own concerns, but I was asleep 13 years longer than you. Yikes! (Perhaps I downed more of the sleep-inducing draught.) <br /><br />Anyway, I must of necessity leave you with the poetic words of my friend Dylan Thomas, apropos for those of us concerned with balancing time and space with agenda. Simply this:<br /><br />Do not go gentle into that good night . . .<br /><br />Trey AdamsTrey Adamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01566379266155595170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-86043618234727636742011-01-24T15:58:58.314-07:002011-01-24T15:58:58.314-07:00Thanks, Joe. :)
Libellule - I guess I'd say t...Thanks, Joe. :)<br /><br />Libellule - I guess I'd say that the Church administered the potion. As I've written elsewhere, there is no question but that I lost a great deal of my identity when I joined the Church, and I am now in the process of trying to reclaim that identity.Invictus Pilgrimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15961213460164925021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-75848018305555617962011-01-24T15:47:05.945-07:002011-01-24T15:47:05.945-07:00And I fully expect that you will get it.And I fully expect that you will get it.Kurt Petersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12610294728203577699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6144399754818696603.post-51492638348842491992011-01-24T05:14:29.802-07:002011-01-24T05:14:29.802-07:00I am curious to know how you perceive the church&#...I am curious to know how you perceive the church's participation in this syndrome. I applaud your ability to recognize and affirm your sexuality and be proud of it. At the same time, it appears from your posts that you also believed that the church would be able to cure you of your gay nature, not only marriage. Do you see the church as part of your going to sleep on yourself and life?Libellulehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07633236721899345816noreply@blogger.com